Everybody has those days when you second guess yourself and feel that you are just not good enough. It’s these days where you need to pull out your self-confidence toolbox so that you can snap yourself out of whatever slump you’re in and realize that you are enough and that you can do anything you put your mind and soul into.
When you feel like beating yourself up, here are a few tips that you need to remember so that you know that you’re enough in this world as you are:
1. DON’T BELIEVE EVERYTHING YOU THINK
Your mind is a very powerful thing, but sometimes it can lie to you. Whenever you have a discouraging or cruel thought about yourself, know that it’s just a thought and let it go as quickly as it came. Thoughts are nothing more than just thoughts so don’t dwell on them. If you give power to these negative thoughts, they will consume you and you’ll just end up in a spiral of negativity and feeling like you aren’t enough for that guy, you’re not good enough for that job, you’re not good enough at accomplishing your dream, and on and on. Instead, block out the noise of the world & your own thinking by sitting quietly and focus on the voice of your Spirit to reprogram your thinking.
2. REMEMBER THE GOOD THINGS
It’s easy to get caught up with negativity and focus on everything that’s wrong about you. This is when you need to switch the channel in your mind over to the good things about yourself. What are some things that you do like about yourself? What have you accomplished so far? Whenever a negative thought pops into your head counter that with a positive thought – or just remember that you’re still alive and breathing and can still change anything you want in life. Yes, this takes works but you are truly the most powerful person in your life teamed up with the Divine.
3. OTHERS FEEL THE SAME WAY
Know that everybody has these similar types of thoughts, where they feel they aren’t good enough. And although it’s easy to compare ourselves to others, it often helps to know that others compare themselves to you, too. Everybody compares themselves to other people because we are all human beings. That means we are all imperfect and go through the similar challenges as everyone else. It helps to remember this when you might be thinking if you are the only one who doesn’t feel good enough.
4. ACCEPT LOVE
When you presently can’t give love to yourself, reach out to a good friend and express how you feel. Revealing your feelings is the beginning of healing. Hiding your hurts or insecurities only intensifies them. Know that no one is perfect. You never know, your friend may be secretly going through the same thing and you have unknowingly helped them. Getting love from those who care about you when you don’t feel like caring about yourself will help cheer you up and remember why you are worthy and needed in this world.
5. ACCEPT PROGRESS INSTEAD OF PERFECTION
Perfection is the killer of self-worth and trying to be perfect will get you nowhere. There is no such thing as perfectionism – it is an illusion keeping you from achieving what you desire and feeling secure within yourself. Instead of focusing on perfection, accept and focus on progress and how far you’ve come instead of how much farther you have left to go. When you strive for perfection and then fall short, you can easily feel worthless and less than, which is why it’s good to focus on progress. It gives you wiggle room for when things don’t end up as you wanted to and allows you to still feel confident knowing you’ve come this far.
Praise yourself and acknowledge what you are doing, and know that you can also improve the things you wish without any judgement.
And the way you do that is by spending time nourishing the mind and the soul. The idea is to not spend too much time in your mind, it’s a powerful tool, however, it has a limited perspective.
Your soul naturally knows that you are good enough regardless of who you are, how you look, and what you’re trying to achieve.
So the challenge is to try and balance the mind and the soul to experience true self-confidence and bliss that you’re searching for.
Spend some time each day beautifying and exercising the mind and the soul.
What is one tool you are going to use when you feel like you’re not good enough? Comment below!