It was a beautiful sunny day, and a stroll along the beach seemed like the perfect idea. After all, exercising by the ocean was one of my favorite ways to nurture both my body and spirit.

As I set out on my walk, aiming for a distant post, I found myself unexpectedly overwhelmed with fatigue. My legs grew weak, and I had to pause, collapsing onto the sand.

Tears streamed down my face as I gazed up at the sky. “Dear God, I just want to feel like myself again. I long to regain my strength and walk for 45 minutes like I used to,” I silently pleaded.

Little did I realize, lingering in an abusive relationship beyond its expiration date, coupled with subsequent painful breakups, had taken a toll on my health.

While notions of “being strong” and “staying positive” could only carry me so far, I soon discovered that unresolved experiences, unprocessed emotional baggage, limiting beliefs, fear, and a disconnection from my heart not only made me profoundly unhappy but also gravely ill.

I came to understand that every illness harbored an emotional component and that our emotional patterns could significantly impact our physical health, leading to conditions like depression, anxiety, and various physical ailments.

Many people focus on physical detoxification, cleansing their bodies of parasites or eliminating mold from their environment. Yet, they often overlook the importance of addressing dying relationships, lingering breakups, unresolved guilt, anger, sadness, or resentment—all of which can sap our vitality, much like leaves withering on a plant.

We all possess intuitive abilities to discern when something is amiss, yet we often ignore these inner signals, clinging to the hope that relationships will endure indefinitely. However, as I learned firsthand, neglecting our emotional well-being can exact a heavy toll on our immune system.

While factors like nutrition, environment, and genetics undoubtedly influence our health, we mustn’t discount the profound impact of emotional health on our immune function.

I once felt invincible, resilient in the face of adversity. However, prolonged periods of stress eventually took their toll, leading to a breakdown in my body. While humans possess remarkable resilience, we cannot evade the consequences of neglecting our spiritual and emotional needs indefinitely.

During my journey to healing, I encountered a quote by Caroline Myss that resonated deeply with me: “When an illness is part of your spiritual journey, no medical intervention can heal you until your spirit has begun to make the changes that the illness was designed to inspire.”

I came to realize that my emotional imbalance profoundly affected my immune system, but I also recognized that my spirit was attempting to capture my attention. It sought to remind me of my inherent worth, the importance of living in alignment with my values, and the necessity of loving and accepting myself unconditionally.

Thus, I embarked on a journey of education, delving into energy medicine, stress management, and strategies for healing the body after chronic stress.

On a fundamental level, stress from breakups or toxic relationships triggers physiological responses in the body. Cortisol and epinephrine levels rise, compromising immune function and leaving us susceptible to various ailments.

For instance, elevated cortisol levels, sustained over time, lead to the production of inflammatory chemicals called cytokines, resulting in symptoms like headaches, joint pain, digestive issues, and weight gain. Inflammation is increasingly recognized as the root cause of numerous degenerative diseases.

Take my experience, for example. Prolonged stress weakened my immune system, leaving me vulnerable to infectious diseases and autoimmune disorders like stage 4 Epstein-Barr virus and Lyme disease.

Faced with declining health, I felt compelled to address the root causes of my susceptibility to illness. I confronted deep-seated beliefs and core wounds that had eroded my self-love, such as “I’m not good enough” or “I’m not lovable.”

The path to healing doesn’t entail fixing ourselves; it requires embracing self-love—a love rooted in divine acceptance.

We needn’t strive for perfection; being authentically human is enough. At times, I find myself channeling the wisdom of a spirited, healthy 90-year-old woman from Ikaria, Greece, echoing her words in my mind: “Just relax. Don’t worry about anything. Have that glass of wine.”

Stress isn’t solely about our to-do lists or busyness; it encompasses physiological stressors and mental preoccupations with the past or future.

Yet, when our immune system is robust, our bodies can fend off viruses and bacteria effectively.

If you’ve endured breakups or stressful relationships—or if you’re currently navigating such challenges—consider these tips to support your immune system:

So here are 15 natural tips to help support your immune system in stressful breakups and relationships or simply life (there’s more, but this is plenty to get you started).

1. Manage Cortisol Levels
Cortisol is release during times of stress so look for supplements to help balance the body’s level of cortisol. I personally love holy basil.

2. Antioxidants with B Vitamins

Serotonin (a neurotransmitter) and progesterone are essentially eaten up during the stress of a break up. The antioxidants will help your body make serotonin to reduce the pain in the immune system. If you’re in peri-menopause those symptoms can get worse during a break up – boost that hormonal system that is related to serotonin. According to Harvard researchers, it’s estimated that by age 35, the typical woman is already deficient in progesterone. Get your levels checked. I’ve also heard women balance their hormones through a strict eating plan. Each to their own. (Do your own research and do what is best for you.)

3. Supplement your Body with Zinc, Vitamin C, and Magnesium

Zinc helps strengthen the immune system. Vitamin C ( Ester C) lowers inflammation, repairs damaged neurotransmitters, and soothes adrenal glands, and magnesium lowers anxiety and calms an overactive nervous system and reduces adrenal gland stress…helping you sleep better.

4. Emotional Release Work
From a young age, we’re taught to manage and suppress our emotions. However, when we avoid facing our feelings, they can become overwhelming and stored within us, taking up energetic space. It’s crucial to acknowledge and address these emotions to prevent them from affecting our well-being.

Many strategies, such as watching TV, overeating, or constantly staying busy, serve as ways to numb emotional pain. However, they only provide temporary relief and do not address the underlying issues. Emotions are like energy in motion; when they’re not allowed to flow freely, they become trapped within us.

To release these pent-up emotions, it’s beneficial to seek support from professionals trained in emotional healing techniques. Therapists, coaches, or practitioners of techniques like NET (Neuro Emotional Technique), EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique), or talk therapy can help facilitate the release of suppressed emotions.

If you like writing, another effective method for emotional release is through release writing. Unlike journaling, release writing involves allowing your thoughts and emotions to flow onto paper without judgment. These words are not meant to be revisited; instead, they serve as a means of expressing and releasing pent-up emotions.

After release writing, it’s essential to ground yourself in the present moment, practicing self-compassion and acceptance. By moving the energy out of your body with love and compassion, you can begin to experience emotional healing and create space for greater well-being

5. Keep Moving: Embrace Daily Movement for Emotional Well-Being
As we know, physical activity offers a channel for releasing pent-up emotions and tension stored in the body. Whether it’s through gentle stretching, invigorating yoga flows, brisk walks, or fun activities like hula hooping, movement allows you to express and process your feelings in a tangible way. Moving your body mindfully fosters a deeper connection between your physical and emotional selves. As you flow through different movements, pay attention to how your body responds and the sensations you experience. This heightened awareness can help you cultivate a greater sense of self-awareness and emotional resilience.

6. Pleasure and Laughter
Finding moments of joy and laughter amidst life’s challenges can significantly impact our well-being. It’s essential to balance negative emotions with positive experiences to improve our overall mood and outlook on life.

Engage in activities that bring you pleasure and make you smile. Watch funny movies, attend comedy shows, or indulge in humorous books to uplift your spirits. Dedicate time each day to do something that brings you joy, excluding food-related activities.

Consider simple pleasures like listening to music, spending time with loved ones over tea, exploring new hobbies or classes, journaling your thoughts, or creating a calming atmosphere with candlelight and meditation. Embracing these small moments of happiness can help alleviate stress and promote emotional balance in your life.

7. Prayer & Meditation
Prayer and meditation, the dynamic duo for boosting your mood. It’s like having a secret weapon against those pesky mood disorders.

Let’s start with prayer. Now, whether you’re religious or not, prayer taps into something bigger than ourselves, offering a sense of comfort and hope. It’s like having a heart-to-heart with God, the universe, a moment of reflection and gratitude that can soothe even the most troubled soul.

And then there’s meditation, the zen master of mental health. It’s all about being present, tuning into your breath, a bible verse, or a mantra, and letting go of the chaos swirling around you. Studies show it’s a game-changer for battling depression and anxiety, giving you that inner peace you’ve been craving.

So, whether you’re sending up a prayer or finding your zen on the meditation cushion, these practices offer a lifeline in the sea of emotions. They’re like a warm hug for your soul, helping you navigate life’s ups and downs with grace and resilience.

8. Infrared Sauna Therapy
Picture this: you step into a cozy sauna, and instead of feeling like you’re suffocating in heat, it’s like being embraced by a warm, comforting hug.

Now, here’s where the real magic happens. Research has shown that infrared saunas can actually give your immune system a boost. How, you ask? Well, it’s all about triggering your body’s parasympathetic nervous system, which is like the chill-out mode for your body. So not only do you get to relax and unwind, but you’re also giving your immune system a little extra support along the way. 

9. Acupressure Point Therapy

In times of emotional turmoil, finding ways to relieve stress and promote healing is crucial. Acupressure point therapy offers a holistic approach to wellness, targeting specific points on the body to release tension and restore balance.

One effective acupressure point for those navigating breakups is the “Heart 7” point, also known as Shen Men. Located on the wrist crease, on the pinky side of the forearm, Heart 7 is believed to calm the mind, alleviate anxiety, and ease emotional pain.

To practice acupressure on the Heart 7 point:

  1. Find the wrist crease on the inside of your wrist, near the pinky finger (google it)
  2. Place your thumb on the spot where you feel the most tenderness.
  3. Apply gentle pressure with your thumb, using a circular or up-and-down motion.
  4. Breathe deeply and slowly as you massage the point for about 1-2 minutes on each wrist.

By stimulating the Heart 7 point, you can help soothe emotional distress and promote a sense of inner peace during challenging times like a breakup. Incorporating this simple yet powerful technique into your self-care routine may provide comfort and support as you navigate through difficult emotions.

10. Learn From Your Relationships

Let’s talk about the classroom of life and love. Relationships are like the textbooks we learn from, teaching us invaluable lessons about ourselves and the world around us.

Think of it as a pop quiz for self-discovery. Reflecting on past relationships or evaluating current ones can offer profound insights into our emotional patterns, boundaries, and needs.

1. Healthy vs. Unhealthy: What dynamics in the relationship felt supportive and nourishing? What aspects were draining or detrimental to your well-being?

2. Self-Reflection: What did you discover about yourself through this relationship? Are there recurring patterns or behaviors you notice in your interactions with others. What aspects brought you joy and growth? What red flags or challenges did you encounter?

3. Self-Discovery: Breakups offer a unique opportunity for self-reflection. What have you learned about yourself through this relationship? Are there areas where you’ve grown or discovered new strengths?

4. Fulfillment: Where do you feel fulfilled in your relationships, and where do you sense a gap or unmet needs? Are there areas where you desire more connection or authenticity?

5. Healing: Allow yourself the space to grieve and heal. Recognize that healing is a process, and it’s okay to feel a range of emotions during this time.

6. Lessons Learned:
Every breakup carries valuable lessons. What insights have you gained about your needs, boundaries, and desires in relationships? How can you apply these lessons to future connections?

7. Moving Forward: As you navigate life post-breakup, consider what you want to carry forward and what you’re ready to release. How can you nurture yourself and create a fulfilling life independent of the relationship? If you’re not going through a breakup, based on your reflections, what changes or improvements would you like to make in your relationships? How can you advocate for your own well-being and cultivate healthier connections?

Ultimately, true healing isn’t measured by perfect physical health or the absence of negative emotions. It’s about embracing your authentic self, living in alignment with your values, and extending love and forgiveness—to yourself and others—along your journey.

I hope these suggestions inspire you to take a step toward healing, knowing that even small steps can yield significant results.

You’re on a purposeful path.


** Disclaimer: This article contains the opinions, studies, and ideas of its coach/author. It is intended to provide helpful and informative material on the subjects addressed in this article. The coach/author (Irene Elias) is not engaged in rendering medical, health, or any other kind of professional health services in this article. The reader should consult his or her medical, health professional before adopting any of the suggestions in this article or drawing inferences from it.