A different approach to your New Year's resolutions

Happy New Year!

I’m happy to be back at work, and as I sip my quince green tea in my office, and think back on 2016, I’m so glad that this chapter in my life has ended, actually the last 2 years, um, okay; the entire last decade was dramatic enough to be scripted into Pretty Little Liars.

The only time I will look back is to remind myself of the wisdom I gained and other important teachings. However, I’m also grateful for so many things, especially the wonderful man that has entered into my life.

I came across a popular Facebook post that I posted on December 31st 2015 that read:

“Am I going to wish for a better New Year? No. What I’ve learned over the years is that challenges may appear and some of them can take you by surprise. And things may not go as planned. So instead, I’ve made a commitment to do my best in being that person who can extract treasure amongst the junk, to be able to count my blessings no matter the external circumstances, to collect the lessons for my soul’s growth, to be able to turn any situation into a gift, and to open my heart more to love and invite renewed peace & joy over and over again.” – Irene Elias

I believe I’ll continue to use this statement of truth every New Year. That said, according to numerology, 2017 is a number 1 year, which means it’s the year of new beginnings. (If numerology excites you like it does for me, there’s plenty of research to be found on this topic.)

It’s a year to wipe the canvas clean, set new foundations for the next 9 years and to watch what you focus on as “it” will manifest quickly! I don’t know about you, but this energy feels refreshing, freeing and exciting to me.

So, lets talk about setting New Year’s resolutions since it’s the time to do so – I’ve actually changed the way I do my New Year’s resolutions. I try to get to the core of my beliefs, wounds and my “why’s.” For example, when someone’s goal is to lose weight, they’ll typically focus on only losing the weight, and when they slip up, they beat themselves up and it’s back to square one again.

You don’t need to become extreme in achieving your goals; it’s an everyday commitment to yourself for the rest of your life. If you rely on willpower alone to lose weight, you will reach a dead end. Because it’s not willpower that keeps you at a healthy strong weight. It’s not willpower that will keep you happy. And it’s not will power that will make your relationships work.

Pull out your journal, it’s time to dream big, clean up past patterns, delete limiting beliefs, stop the self-judgment and self-criticism, and set your #selflovejunkie goals for 2017.

For the last two years, I’ve been strengthening my Self Love Junkie practices by seeking insight. I’m doing this by asking these questions throughout the New Year: *

  1. What past story do I need to let go of?
  2. Who do I need to forgive? (Including myself.)
  3. Who am I?
  4. What do I want?
  5. What is my purpose in life?
  6. What am I truly grateful for?
  7. How can I surrender more?
  8. How can I bring more love into my life?
  9. How can I cultivate more self-compassion?
  10. How can I have more patience?
  11. How can I stop comparing my life and body to others and just accept myself?
  12. How can I find the courage to speak up for myself when treated disrespectfully?
  13. How can I be true to my values and stop worrying about what other people think?
  14. What wounds are still bleeding that need healing?
  15. What limiting beliefs do I desire to change?
  16. With whom do I need to set healthy boundaries?
  17. How can I enjoy my life and myself more?

*Caveat: these questions could change you, your life and the world.

How are you going to love yourself more this year? Feel free to share your thoughts with me – I’d love to know.

Remember, your Self Love Junkie practices are not selfish; they honor your soul and are a gift to you, your family and to humanity.

Happy New Year, new month, new decade!