“Freedom is not the absence of commitments, but the ability to choose – and commit myself to – what is best for me.”
― Paulo Coelho
If you sit down and reflect honestly, you will probably observe that change is the only constant thing in our lives. And so one would think that it’s imperative to learn how to adapt and commit to change and that you’ll actually keep.
But it ain’t so easy is it?
The current observations that I’ve made with the people around me is that many are focusing on their health and healing. Which is amazing. And I know this to be true for me too. My number one focus in my life is my health. Having had chronic illnesses (still healing), I know for sure that if someone was wanting to make changes in their life and didn’t know where to start, I would ask them about their health, because if that’s not running properly, the rest of our life cannot live up to its full potential.
So let’s begin by acknowledging the fact that you want to become your truest and most powerful self. And in order to do that you need to make some changes. Great. So now you’re aware. Once you’re aware this leads to accountabliltiy. Now you can no longer say you cannot change.
Here are my thoughts on how to make commitments that you’ll actually keep — particularly when it comes to health and healing.
1. Define your why.
Define what type of change you want to commit to and why. What is the bigger purpose behind your change? You have to really want this. And if you don’t know what you’re committing to, then you’ll never be able to truly commit to change. Be clear and be honest while defining your commitment. Write it down & make a plan by defining why you’re doing this and how you’re going to do this.
Let’s use the example of health and healing. If you don’t like the condition your body is currently in or your health, you might decide that you’ve had enough and it’s time to change it. You must define why you are doing this; be as clear, honest and detailed as you can. Then draft a plan regarding the methods you are going to practice to achieve this, such as what foods you’ll incorporate into your eating habits, the supplements you need to take, the physical activity you’re going to do, your sleeping habits and so forth. This will make you aware of what you are actually committing to and prepare yourself for the longlasting change ahead.
Once you’ve identified your why, see it & read it often.
2. Be persistent.
Commitment requires persistence. You cannot back out because you’re finding it hard to adapt to change or if the change is not immediately working out for you. To acquire great results from the change, you have to practice persistence. Again, using the example of health, some days you will do well; you will eat healthy meals and you will workout like a beast. Other days will not go so smoothly. You might feel like crap or just have a rough day. These days will pass. You’ll be okay. Rest. No guilt. Try again the next day. What can you do to remind yourself about persistence?
3. Polish your thoughts.
Motivation isn’t perminent, neither is willpower. So what happens when you lose motivation or willpower? Two things: 1. go back to your notebook where you defined your commitments. Re-read those reasons and plans that you wrote down while you were defining your commitments when you were powerfully motivated. 2. notice your mindset. Is your thinking in alignment with what you want to acheive? If not, then polish your thoughts to support your best self. If your motivations have changed, draft your plan again and add some new reasons to the list.
Committing to change—any change—can be daunting and plain difficult. Understand that you’ll make mistakes and have setbacks. Forgive yourself. And move on. The goal is to be your best self, not perfect. Perfetionism is nothing more that professional insecurity.
Here’s a little worksheet to pull it all together:
My commitment is: ______________________________.
I really want this commitment because (your why): ______________________________.
The action plan that I’m going to follow so that I can succeed, is: ______________________________.
The thoughts that I’m going to think to support my best self, are: ______________________________.
Start with self love.
You were designed and created to succeed and overcome and live powerfully.
You can do this.