You’ve finally decided to follow your heart and get started on creating the life that you’ve always wanted. But at the same time, you’re afraid, and you don’t think you’re courageous or confident enough to go all the way. How do you follow your heart even though you’re scared?
Perhaps you’re considering leaving a relationship, but you fear of being lonely. You’re single and want to go out into the dating world, but afraid of getting hurt again. You want to leave your draining job, but afraid you won’t be able to make a living doing what you love. You want to move to another city, but afraid of not having a support system.
We all reach certain points in our life where our soul gives us a nudge, or in some cases a shove because the life that we’re living on the outside does not match our desires on the inside. Even though we may feel excited to make these changes, fear tends to interfere with the whispers of our soul and keeps us in our comfort zone.
Stepping into the unknown can be scary, but what’s scarier is living with regrets and fighting with the ‘what ifs.’ When we decide to make a change we don’t usually think about the good things that can happen, instead, we tend to place most of our focus on, what could go wrong. And so we visualize scenarios of failure, and disappointment, and come to a conclusion that maybe we’re just not ready, or it’s just best to stay safe.
Most of the fear you feel is only a story that you’ve made up in your mind. This is a result of you not placing enough trust in yourself. If you can focus on as much passion with what can go wrong, you can also visualize with as much passion with what can go right.
So how might you feel if you did follow your heart? Visualize all the things that you would like to go right. How does that feel?
Now, what is the worst thing that can happen if you don’t succeed? And is this going to be the end of the world? Understand things may not turn out perfect, and you need to be okay with that. If things don’t turn out the way you want them to and you get disappointed, ask yourself, “What did I learn from this experience?” “What will I do differently next time?” If you learn something then you haven’t failed you have won.
Those who learn the most, succeed the most. Be empowered and turn your disappointments into learning opportunities. This technique does take practice. But the more you practice visualizing a positive outcome, and having a mindset that failure is an opportunity for growth, then you’ll find it easier to move through your fears with more confidence & excitement.
Here are 4 steps to help you deal with your fear:
1. BECOME AWARE
Whatever you fear most in your life right now go there first. This is where your soul is calling you to go forth for your personal transformation. Be specific and get to know what your fear is all about. Face your fear head on, and don’t be afraid of it. Once you’ve become specific with your fear, ask yourself, “What would I like to happen?” You want to bring your fear out of the darkness and into the light. Once you have recognized your main fear, call upon God/angels/your higher self, to help you release these blocks & transmute them into courage & confidence.
Journaling is a great way to process fear and kick anxiety out of your body – which stems from the mind. There is some magic when your pen hits the paper – it’s like your spirit and mind become one. By simply writing out your fears you will feel better. If you don’t like to write it out, you can also type it out on your computer or phone in your notes. The point is to move these thoughts out of your body & replace them with empowering & uplifting ones.
Talk through your fears either with a trusted friend/partner or seek professional help from a therapist or a coach that can help you. By stating your fears out loud to someone, you’ll feel so much better as they no longer have power over you. You will then feel empowered to shift your focus off of what you don’t want & more toward what you do want. As the saying goes “Energy flows where attention goes.” So place your attention on what you want your life to look like – love or fear?
Once you have faced your fears and have an understanding, take one small action towards where your soul is calling you to go forth – and do this daily. When you take consistent action toward your goals, your fear begins to subside and action will help you build confidence. As Eleanor Roosevelt said, “You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face.” And she was right. So embrace your fears & act anyway.
What is one thing that you would love to do right now, but fear is keeping you from doing it? Comment below, I would love to hear!