You find yourself in an eerily similar situation and feel like you’re in the movie, Groundhog Day. You just had the realization that nothing is changing and you keep repeating the past. You are feeling exhausted by the same old issues yet believe that there’s no other way.
Whenever you encounter a recurring pattern it usually stems from hurt feelings in your past. And unless you face and heal old emotional pain, you will not change this pattern. However, since you’ve come to this point of awareness it’s usually a sign that you are ready to do things differently in your life and have opened the door of opportunity to change the ending of your life story.
And when we catch ourselves repeating a pattern over and over again, it’s often caused by unresolved emotions from our childhood needing to heal particular wounds.
When you don’t wake up as a result of your pain, you will continue to live blindly and unconsciously keep repeating similar events, circumstances, habits, relationships or people into your life and sometimes in a more intense form.
It’s not because you are crazy or neurotic, it’s because you need to heal your heart, cleanse your mind, forgive, and move on.
Which means, sometimes you need to go back to your past to connect the dots to your wounded parts and gain understanding so that you can finally heal and stop repeating the past. It doesn’t mean that you’re letting the person(s) off the hook, it simply means that you’ve let toxic feelings go in exchange for peace.
No matter what past you come from, it’s not your destiny, nor does it define who you are today. It’s never too late for you to be the woman you want to be and to create the life you daydream about.
The sooner you surrender all negative self-judgment, regrets, heartaches, and disappointments, the sooner you can start creating a new story and rebuild your self-confidence.
You might be thinking, “How much more healing can be done and when am I going to reach to the other side of this and live the life of my dreams?”
Just be mindful not to get impatient & feel overwhelmed by the thought of how long this might take & how difficult it will be. If you’re consistent, it won’t take as long or be as hard as you imagine. Growth is incremental with a few leaps in between along the way. You’ll see it as it happens.
3 Steps to Stop Repeating The Past
1. BE THE DETECTIVE IN YOUR OWN LIFE
Visualize yourself putting a DVD onto a blank screen. This DVD is of your life thus far. Become the observer by looking through nonjudgmental eyes, and rewind to the parts where you’re still hanging onto past files in your current life.
Where are you holding onto heartache? Who are you blaming? What do you need to heal? Is it a relationship? A person? A situation? An event? Yourself? Begin the healing process and free yourself from all the agony.
2. KNOW YOUR WORTH
What patterns are you repeating that you think could be broken if you released the past and increased your self-worth? And if you could experience a good dose of self-worth & self-esteem, what might be different in your life?
3. SPEAK POWERFULLY
Learn to speak words that hold power and are in alignment to what you desire. There is well-documented science stating that the way we think and how we speak changes our DNA. Our brain creates memories in our mind and the experiences we go through are stored, pushing forward the things we do without thinking. When we pay attention to the things we say and how we think, you will feel differently, respond differently and live differently.
You can start today. Say it out loud, with belief and intent. “I release the past now. I take only the love and lessons. I choose to live a powerful life. I forgive those who have hurt me in the past and let it go. I am free to not be attached to past emotions and am free to create a brand new life. I am strong. I am moving forward. The right people are coming into my life and we have healthy relationships together. I am growing everyday and becoming the person I was created to be. I am free from holding myself back and I am becoming my truest self.”
Remember to take one day at a time & that God/Universe is on your side helping you every step of the way. Focus on becoming accountable, loving, and loyal to self, this leads to refusing to settle for less and having your own back. It’s one of those 1,000 step journeys. Take a step every single day and IT WILL HEAL.
P.S If you feel guided to seek professional support, I highly recommend seeing a good therapist, counselor, healer or life coach to help you heal and move forward sooner rather than later. Seeking support is not a sign of weakness but a sign of strength. Everyone in life needs support. Of course, I would love to support you, you can check out my personal 1:1 sessions and see how we can work together.